after lunch day 2

we play a game of power sculpting office furniture to represent power and interp

watching this now:
http://www.forthebibletellsmeso.org/indexd.htm

racism

misogyny

gripping issues of our time

to submit class notes or papers for publishing contact maryeng1@yahoo.com

now ways of privilege get in the way understanding
power


what is our understanding of power, privilege, kinds of power

androcentric

measure of power to leverage change
deconstruct stereotype

feminist who loves men
dialectical


contradictions

we can be living examples of change
subvert patriarchy and white supremacy

in terms of social identifiers


youth devalued by our culture and in many cultures their opinions are valued!!!!!

or even they that look young . . .
agism

me personally i renounce these words!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  i am not any of this!!!!!


women as objectified commodity value only---past the age of commodification they are invisible

a lot of young students i feel more powerful than men---there is transient attention which is different than being appreciated . . .in a timeless way

how do we construct the architiecture of power----sculptural exercise

the  chair game reminds me

bauhaus design, furniture
feng shui
tracy emin
tom sachs
miroslaw balka

subversions

minimalism
clear the space (what i was thinking of)

movie
moral conflict
moral literature
education   not persuaded---
moral conviction

based on integral systems and beliefs

concept in film within the context of religiosity

homosexuality and christianity

the strory of the conflict btw

grapple to understand a moral conflict

interesting way to look at moral conflict

not meant to offend christians
press and attention
for GLBT equality!

positive support from a teacher!!!!!!

Mary:
Thanks for a scintillating paper! You are an amazing writer, and great thinker, and I learned a lot from all you had to say. The field of interpersonal neurobiology takes all of the bio-chemical issues into consideration in analyzing our conflict behaviors/responses!
Excellent work,
Amanda.



amazing!!!!!!

morning part two day two

identity and power

race
gender
sexuality
nationality
ethnic group
religion
ability
age/appearance
class


active choices

examined    ////////unexamined

spectrums? later


neutrals

expectations

irigaray

gender norms

redlining
racism
environmental degradation

male domination of academia

day two morning notes

skimming document skills

format paper with citations

DUAL CONCERN MODEL

LOW CONCERN FOR SELF, OTHER

PLOTS DIFFERENT concerns on the graph

self/other binary

low concern for self and other

presupposition of identity politics

less likely to engage in conflict avoidance

low concern
avoidance
different systems
competetive

collaborative problem solve

mutual satisfaction

accomodating
anti-authoritarian bulls in china shops

socialization across gender norms
high concern for self
dual concern model
low concern for self
forcing competative
avoidance
compromise
collaborate problem solve
accomodate high concern for other

self/other identity politics
endocrinology of anger

http://www.adrtoolbox.com/decision-resources/the-dual-concern-model/

reflection paper one

http://www.scribd.com/doc/36680655/maryengconflictresolution1-1


Conflict Resolution 301
Portland State University
Mary Eng
for Amanda Byron
8-31-10

Conflict Resolution as a discipline is a new field for me. So far it seems to be an extremely comprehensive and all permeating way of seeing the world and dealing with interpersonal and intra-personal conflict. In my life as a philosophy student it was always necessary to question every term and its presuppositions.
Embedded within the term conflict, is the presupposition that there is a state of tension, turmoil, or a pulling between opposites. In the future of conflict resolution or transformation, I think a a radical look at all presumptions at play may offer valuable insight. Is it fair to always presume conflict? Is conflict a bad thing? Why does it scare people? As with the pull or stress of the supports on a bridge, it is in conflict that there is strength. I think of the storm and stress in German literature, sturm und drang, a time of the awakening of the individual's ability to respond to political control.
What is called conflict might really actually be the balancing of powers between they that were previously oppressed and the ruling hegemonies. As the formerly marginalized rise up, and take power, so naturally would old authoritarian power structures crumble, and the old guard might find “conflict” when what is occurring is actually an equalization. And therein what might be perceived as conflict to old power networks, might be perceived as a liberation of oppressed or colonized classes, or as an attempt toward reconciliation, dialogue, or balance.
Another problem inherent within the term “conflict resolution” is the presumption of conflict. As a non-argumentative pacifist, I am startled often by how frequently others can interpret an attempt at dialogue as conflict. What does this say about human beings? That we are so deprived of communication that all we know is a state of war? That technology has both enhanced and detracted from our communication skills? In any interaction, people bring their needs to the table. In an evolutionary biological sense, we attempt to impress each other with
our survival skills. In this way, it might be seen that behind every purported “conflict” might be a struggle for resources, or a stuggle to impress others with “fierceness” and primal survival skills, or communication of historical identity, or mythicization of a sense of self. As ferocity is necessary for survival, the instinct beyond the apparent glaze of “conflict” might actually be a shared interest in community survival, leadership, preservation of resources. Conflict might actually be seduction, or kinship, peerage. The tension offered within speakers of a language towards demonstrating to each other their ferocity, could be interpreted more subliminally as bonding rather than conflict.
Indeed as consciousness internationalizes, and as young people feel the way that we as humans are so much all the same, we might begin to look at the wars of the world as a primitive bonding experience, much like Facebook. And as we might transcend the power dynamics of resource wars and realize that human consciousness is geared for survival, new methods of peace might be waged. As human needs theory places a hierarchy on needs, and strangely it is our most primal experience that places need for meaning and self-actualization on such high footing. And in war, or conflict we feel meaning through adversity. We feel self-realization through strength. The cathartic transformative effect gives humans self realization through surviving struggle. So a high life-force might be recognized in individuals prone to conflict . . . as that high life force engages the often under-challenged human intellect. So in a world based on sensory deprivation and atmospheres devoid of intellectual stimulation suited for such highly intelligent animals as ourselves, conflict might become a substitute for intellectual rigor.
The endocrinology of conflict must also be assessed. What is cortisol, when does it peak, what are effects? In what way is adrenaline addicting? What hormonal spectrums effect communication styles and tendencies towards genderization norms????? What cultural skills manage the waters of conflict? How could an international approach synthesize the best of many cultures, many disciplines?

day one afternoon class notes

successful indicator of a mediation's success
the willingness of the parties

insist upon being adverserial
hilarity

negative perception to conflict
engage curiosity the other piece
effective conflict resolution---you get do-overs

emotion over skill
capacity to come back

avoidance perfectly good strategy

trust transparency
harnessing strengths
challenging of reality
humility
trust transparency
challenge
real life application
harnessing strengths
question authority
being pushed
paradigm shift
understanding
encouragement
paradigm shift
advocacy
creativity
using visuals
advocacy

immediate application in life
hands-on

research methodology
safespace for risk taking caring
fun
relationship
challenge
subjectivity
respective
applicability

adult learning theory has gained credibility
yonger profs at PSU
newer thinking

academia
professoriate
itellectuals excel at their field not nec.  effective teachers----people with doctorates
idiot savants

overdeveloped frontal lobe
can’t tie their shoes
really smart people are unskilled in those ways
test phobias

keep scholarship
teach without testing
radical pedagogy
engaged
critical

relationship
live in a different way
boost self esteem
safety
whole new field
interpersonal neurobiology

higher
reptilian

when afraid a lot we
never develop the circuitry---to the higher thinking functions
if we aare afraid we can’t be serious
engage cognition
alternatives

perfect example
deescalate that child’s fear of reading

stutter

corelation
re education and our role as a student

talk about the readings

linear idea of conflict
trajectory
resolution wanted immediately forget and move on
ongoing phenomenon

marriage
expectation
nonlinear cultures spiral---

human needs theory
needs wants

FAE
fundamental attribution error

conflicts based on thinking pattern

fantasy of why someone did something

pdf---single spaced to give blindness---implies malice---

person is not even thinking about him---he turns it into an affront---pre-jugmental error--

contextualized in someone’s experience---
therapist sets up a safe atmosphere to discuss

very safe questions
multiple lenses---address the immediacy of the conflict---good synthesis

dialectical thinking---multi-facetted jewel--exist harmoniously

high risk communication blockers
friend or coworker
brother sister
disconnect from the trajectory of information
order people threaten people
judge
praise
call names
divert
reassure
transformation
logical arguing
moralizing
threaten
order

name calling
diagnosing
perfectionist, pessimist
reassure: everything will work out
divert:  did i tell you about the grasshopper who walks into a bar . . . .

best of intentions . . .

oppression means a whole system

logicentric culture

logical workthru emotions

not the same as a systemic oppresssion . . .

the article speaks to both the underlying interests
they upset the apple cart
help us understand the apple cart

experience of seeing derail process

empathy
marshall rosenberg---i stmts transformed into nonviolent communication system

unsatisfying

foist our brilliance on to others

interfere with our transformational process
our own needs met--anxiety level

ratchet down

empathy
strategies
spotlight on the person who is hurting
well that happened to me---it normalizes the situation but it takes the spotlight off the person in pain

misdirected attempts to placate pacify or console

educate storytell
interrogate explain correct----negate their experience---

give them the space to feel what they feel . . .  helping that person be heard . . .

if someone asks what are your underlying interests

nonviolent communication
subliminal stimuli

basic needs
mutual valueing of needs
happiest when giving from the heart
natural needs
system
four steps
key distinctions four step fool proof  than i statement
one observation
feeling
three need
four a request
at least two or four courses in nonviolent communication

forty five minutes
nonviolent communication


an observtion
trigger for a reaction
it never ever includes never always etc . . .
lose worthy opponent---identify feelings interp from thoughts feelings--- i feel like  . . .
pitfalls in i statements
rejected victimize blamed


happy feelings/sad feelings

when this event happened i felt this way bc these needs were met or not---would you be willing to do something for me . . . connect requests for clarity . . .

know that you have been understood . . . different not a demand---so all of this being said---it can be effective in a variety of ways---create clear and non-confrontational confrontation

effective communication

to use it more fluidly without a formulaic approach

link to needs
really frustrated or angry
contribution
compassion
what they’ve done is not just guess at it
inadvertently validates the process

conflict resolution

cannot force them to engage

if you dont want human interaction---it cant be forced upon you---with an outside situation---putting yr own needs on hold----
make sure sitting down with the seatbelt on
still care about their feelings---conflict is difficult----

mediation texts  gives a good description of conflict---formal mediation process---
step outside cycle of blame
hello a convivial gesture . . .
emotional imbalance . . .

fundamental attribution error

weight lifter wants to fight a mom in traffic

volatile conflict
is there something we can do for needs to be met---hurt or sad or frustrated---validate their emotional process---then you can understand what they have to say . . .

real pain
hard not to have yr needs met
empathy

if you are bothered by a person how can you sound authentic without judgment coming out . . . there are times when you do . . .
we presume that other people’s needs are important . . .

twenty reasons . . . the advantage of having facitlity experience and the other underlying needs . . . women taught to cater to other’s needs first . . .

tonight a first reflection paper reflections---conflict transformation article the story for tomorrow

1-2 pages double spaces

a test to assess conflict style . . .
print in your results after this test